Let’s get a bit (randomly) personal, shall we? If you’re an English teacher moving to China alone, dating will eventually be something you’ll consider. Because, let’s face it: if the single-life sucks at home, it sucks tenfold when you’re a brand-new ex-pat in a foreign city with no friends. Ouch.
Now, try as you may, you’ll find the local dating game to be a little disconcerting at first. Broadly speaking, Chinese are a traditional lot and, although youngsters may seem all hip and on-trend, they view the dating game a little differently than most Westerners do. Chinese mostly date to find a wife or husband, and that’s why you may find a local suitor asking many seemingly inappropriate questions, even on a first date!
Yep, you may just snort your coffee when asked if you envisage yourself living permanently in China and having children just half an hour into a first date. In reality, they’re just being pragmatic and (back to point #5) assertive with their wishes. The key here is to hone in your interests on people who’ve had extensive experiences abroad. They are usually less traditional, more open-minded and definitely much nearer to your own wavelength.
This is essentially what brings expats together abroad, even if they wouldn’t always be friends anywhere else in the world. Shared experiences and a similar outlook on life are essential when finding a potential partner abroad, and it is perhaps truer in China than almost anywhere else in the world.
Choose wisely and you’ll find yourself snorting less coffee on first dates.